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A request, as we reach two years

Wow, long time no write.

I didn't enjoy this past winter. I was certainly in a long slump. Things were very challenging at work. Gordon was awesome, as always, but I was just in a sustained funk from last summer on. And I'm not sure I'm all the way out of it yet. I'm still largely in quiet hermit mode, but have been making progress at resuming social contact. Little dude and I have a very busy summer that will go by in a flash.

This Thursday will mark two years since Amanda died. I still replay the events of that night in my head almost every day. I'd like to not. Sometimes it feels like forever ago, but sometimes I'm right there all over again.

Hey, can I ask for your help with something?

Two years ago, so many wonderful people told me that if there was anything they could do to help .... Well, I don't ask often. And I should've asked more. And I should ask more even now. I'm still not comfortable asking. But I'm asking for this.

I put out a video and another call to action last year, asking people who knew Amanda to record a little video that I can use in a larger biographical video for Gordon. It's been two years now, and his memories of her continue to fade, as do mine, I'm sure. Probably for you, too. My intention was to capture peoples' memories while they were still fresh. I think I mentioned such a thing at her memorial service?



Can you guess how many videos I've received since that call to action on Facebook?

None.

I was hoping to have something reasonably complete to give to Gordon this Christmas. As it stands now, I have very little to include. Just what I've gathered and shot myself, and one submission from the very first time I asked. (Thanks, Chris!)

Please, if you can, make something. I can help.

Here's the #mommydoc main web page, with notes on how to shoot, what to shoot, how to send it in, and more.

For everyone wondering, Gordon is doing great. He turned five. He's reading. He's doing math. He's still topping the growth charts. He did great in school. And he's still an all-around wonderful kid.

Thanks to everyone who still checks in here from time to time.

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  1. I happen to drop by your blog by searching the same name person from the Internet. I am sorry for your loss and I believe everyone who knows Amanda is still remember her. The same as Gordon. Rapidly developed IT tech connects everyone but push people away, there are too much information to view everyday. Sorry I cannot share more memory about this but still wish Gordon and you all the best!

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  2. I didn't know Amanda, Scott ... only through your blog. I'm so sorry about the videos. It was a wonderful idea and I hope that when family and friends remember Amanda, they will remember your request.

    blessings my friend

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  3. I only knew Amanda from your blog posts and the few short conversations we had during the Learn to Run for Smokers program but she amazed me. I truly hope you get more videos to share with Gordon and enjoy for many years.

    Your family popped into my heart today, and I had to check in. Hope you had a busy, fun, memorable summer.

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