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Gay guys totally dig me on Flickr

I've been meaning to write something about this for a while, but I don't really know what to say about it.

The bottom line is ... some gay men enjoy pictures of my gut.

Stop laughing.

The picture on the right has had six people label it a favorite. That, as far as I can tell, makes it the most favorited picture in my Flickr library.

The favoriters (word? is it? probably not) include men named tex - just tex, N!(K -- loveforphotography --, Cute_Boy_Wonder, bobjeffs00, matadormat_net, and, the name that seems to sum it all up, Overfed & Underdressed.

Clicking on any of those names will show you their favorites. (I don't suggest doing it at work.) You'll note that they're mostly pictures of topless, hairy, fat men. I'm in good company.

The picture of me with Randy from the Trailer Park Boys comparing big hairy bellies is also a popular choice among the same crowd. Actually, checking right now, I see it has 8 people counting it as favorite, including beardad4bears.

I suppose I'm flattered. It's nice to be considered a sex object, even if those objectifying me aren't the ones I'd expect to attract.

If I were gay, I suppose I'd be welcomed into the "Bear Community." Wikipedia has an article about this, with the following terminology.
  • Admirer - a term that refers to someone who is sexually or romantically attracted to Bears (this term is often used in various communities to describe an outsider who has sexual attraction to people within that community). Also often referred to as a Chaser.
  • Admirers/Chasers can be of any weight, hairy or hairless and any age.
  • Bear - a man with a stocky or heavyset build. Can be hairy or hairless and can be of any age.
  • Cub - a younger (or younger looking) version of a Bear, typically but not always with a smaller frame. The term is sometimes used to imply the passive partner in a relationship. Can be hairy or hairless.
  • Daddy bear - is an older guy sometimes looking for a daddy/son relationship with either a younger Bear, Cub, Otter, Wolf or Chaser.
  • Goldilocks - A female, often heterosexual, who is often in the company of bears. A bear's fag hag. Also can be referred to as an Ursula.
  • Muscle bear - a muscular version of a Bear. A muscle cub is a younger or smaller, yet muscular, version. Can be hairy or hairless and of any age.
  • Panda bear - a bear of Asian ethnicity. A panda cub is younger version. Usually hairless.
  • Polar bear - a silver- or white-haired Bear.
  • Otter - a man who is hairy, but is not large or stocky - typically thinner, or with lean muscle. Slimmer version of a Bear with little pockets of fat like love handles or a tiny gut, but not as lean as a Wolf.
  • Woof - A greeting often used when a Bear spots another Bear in public and wants to express physical attraction. He might make a growling noise ("Grrr!") or say "Woof!"
  • Bear run - a gathering or circuit party for Bear/Cub types and their Admirers.
Kevin Smith has a nice bit about this whole phenomenon in the second An Evening With... DVD. A gay friend told him that if he were ever to switch teams, he could get a really really hot boyfriend, 'cuz the cute muscly hairless guys really go for the chubby hairy dudes.
So, to all the "chasers" -- uh, thanks. Thanks for diggin' my scene. You can look but don't touch.
PS: I now have a full beard. Oo, I'm such a tease.

Comments

  1. I'm totally going to have to keep an ear out for woofs when I am cruising around Stratford.

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  2. Ohhhh, a bit of a narcissistic stud muffin, the apple in the eye of perverted voyeurs

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  3. I was going to say something when I read you describing yourself as stocky and furry - clearly, I was beaten to the punch, as it were.

    Yes, Kevin Smith and Nick Frost are my dream dates - this horrifies many of my fellow gay men, which is why, for the most part, I don't hang out with gay men (like THAT, anyway).

    Besides, please! You have a page about cub! ;)

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  4. Well you know, it's a compliment that you're being dug out there in the Flickr world, even if this wasn't the type of attention that you were looking for! :)

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  5. It's cool that you take gay compliments with a light hearted approach. Some straight men would be angry about getting a compliment from a gay man. It shows security, maturity, and an easy-going attitude on your part. As long as they respect that you're straight and don't go overboard, there's no harm in it. Besides, it feels good that someone out there thinks you're attractive.

    There is a misconception, or maybe it's programming by the TV and media, on what sexy is. I think what is sexy is up for interpretation by everyone's own individual tastes. Why is it only a guy with a hairless body, tan, and six pack abs is ever on the cover of a magazine? Not everyone likes that kind of guy. More variety!

    And sadly, unless you're gay, most men don't get many opportunities to feel attractive. Anytime you try to do something to feel sexy you get accused of being gay. Gay men, who are comfortable with being gay, don't give a shit. They want to feel sexy, they do it. And if other guys find what they're doing is sexy, them let them know. And then pretty soon, you're feeling pretty damn attractive.

    So someone called you a narcissistic stud muffin... Well if you're hot out of the oven, then who can blame you? ;-)

    Finally, I don't find women compliment men very much. They usually expect compliments, not really give them out. So sometimes you get a better idea of your sex appeal through gay men.

    Just my two cents...

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